Monday, September 20, 2010

Being a little too considerate

It is no news that Sebastian is a picky eater. VERY picky. His diet is crazy and definately very far away from recommendations to FA patients, let alone just a normal one. Having struggled for years with this, Tue and I have tried to come to terms with the fact that we cannot force Sebastian to eat a healthy diet. He can eat bread, pasta and rice, sometimes a sausages, and sometimes some bacon. No vegetables, no fruit, no 'real' meat. Well, he survives, and he is still gaining weight, although not very fast.

Every morning we make a lunch box for Sebastian which he brings with him to kindergarten. It is indeed a 'compromise' lunch box: only light rye bread, a 'choice' of chocolate spread or raisins. Whatever will make Sebastian eat - just a little. His level of activity is high, which means he must need some sort of intake during the day.

For some time, Tue and I have been nodding to eachother, when the kids are back home, and we scan the lunchboxes. Marie-Louise's is almost always empty. This is self-explanatory - look at her! She is still growth spurting, being long and rather heavy (or 'solid' as one of the volunteers at Camp exclaimed this summer!). Not chubby, but just a healthy, big girl. Sebastian's lunch box is very often also empty. Wow! Good job! Not that we have said this with words, we have just signaled this to eachother, because many years of eating disorder has taught us that we should avoid to praise food and avoid to praise whether Sebastian eats well.

But apparently Sebastian can read minds. When I picked him up in kindergarten the other day, one of the staff (Mette, who is excelent with Sebastian, and excellent in grasping small significant situations, and then share them with us) tells me (Sebastian was not present), that she had seen Sebastian throwing the rest of the food from the lunchbox in the bin. "Why do you throw out your food, Sebastian?" she asked him. "Oh, you know, my mother, I know she will be SOOO pleased with me, if the lunch box is empty, when I get home," he answered.

Nailed! Totally! No reason to dig further into the question of who has the upper hand here ;-) Just noting that Sebastian is indeed a very considerate boy!

Thursday, September 9, 2010

Egg news

What a title! Unfortunately covering very little news ;-( Our fifth PGD attempt went well in respect of number of eggs retrieved. 19 egg were retrieved on the 3rd of September. 13 of these started to divide. However, most of them did not well in the process, and 'only' four eggs made an answer in the final HLA-test. Although statistics say that 25% of these eggs should have the rigth HLA-combination, none of the four eggs 'chose' to do so. Too bad. I got the news that there was no eggs to transfer on my birthday the 7th of September. Good news is that we can try again, maybe already within this year. We will see about that.

Both Sebastian and Marie-Louise are doing great. They are playfull, rather cheeky and most of the time in a very good mood. They make our day! Marie-Louise will move from her creche to kindergarten (within the same house, so it will probably be easy) on the 1st of December. She has already got a close friend, Mette, with whom she plays with after creche once a week, both here and at Mettes house. The two of them are having a blast together!

Sebastian is doing great in kindergarten, and is making great progress in many areas. On my birthday on Tuesday he had made me a string of beads. Tue had seen him starting off the work in kindergarten, and although Sebastians hands and fingers are still weak, and although it had taken him triple the time compared to the other kids, he finished the present and was very proud. So was the mom! And even more when I saw the card HE HAD WRITTEN WITH REAL LETTERS! "Til mor fra Sebastian" it read. Way to go Sebastian! Marie-Louise had made me a drawing of the sun. I could not have wished for better presents!

And oh yeah, I also got a piano! A beautiful black Yamaha upright piano, where I can play the pieces that I learned as a kid. It is great! The kids love it too, and pling-plongs on it the best they can ;-)
A recent picture of the two. We have a 'rule' saying that if the sun is shining they are allowed to have an icecream. Whenever I pick Sebastian and Marie-Louise up in the creche and kindergarten they look up in the sky for the 'icecream' sign. This day they hit the bingo ;-)

Thursday, August 12, 2010

Deep down in the jungle

It has been a while since I have updated on Sebastians medical issues. Mostly because it seems like a jungle - which can be difficult to describe in details. However, here is a try:

Whether Sebastians cord is tethering is still an open question. In Copenhagen the doctors clearly says 'no', whereas the doctor in Ã…rhus - after having studied the axial MR-images of Sebastians spine - now says: 'the filum terminale is situated within the nerves, and not in the middle (as it should be). Therefore, at any progression of symptoms, surgery should be offered'. We opted for a third opinion, and was very lucky to get one from a very kind neurosurgeon in England. He also did not find any tethering of the cord, and suggested to look for other explanations for Sebastians symptoms. For now we will just wait and see, and observe if we see any change in Sebastians ability to control bladder and bowel. Right now he has wet diapers two thirds of the nights, and only has the occassional accident (big or small) during daytime. We can certainly live with that.

Talking about bladder-control, we are also still observing the phimosis-development. The surgery to correct this in January was successfull in the sense that Sebastian has peed without pain and blood since then. However, the phimosis is still there, however not causing trouble for the time being. The surgeon who did the surgery in January wants to wait and see, but finds it likely that we will have to do a follow up surgery sometime in the future to prevent serious atresia like the one we saw last December.

Tuesday this week, Sebatian was in GA for a couple of examinations of his intestines. When Sebastian was almost 2 years old, he was hospitalised for serious constipation. A doctor then suggested that Sebastian could have Hirchsprung disease, which is a rare disease of the colon. As we did not believe that Hirchsprung in combination with FA could statistically be possible, we did not push forward for the rectum biopsies which had to be done to confirm the diagnosis. Since then Sebastian has been on daily lactolosis and now also laxoberal drops to make the food pass, and despite this his eating has - like many other FA-kids - still been very sparse, and very non-varied. A peadiatric surgeon suggested to make biopsies both for Hirchsprung and of Sebastians duodendum (a gastroscopi with biopsies), also taking into account that Sebastian has had surgery for duodonal atresia when he was newborn. A new atresia could be the reason for Sebastians poos intake, and now beginning lack of weight gain (has gained less than half a kilo in a year).

Sebastian did great with the GA mask. He is - understandably - not very fond of the idea when he has to take it. But over the last 16 months, where he has been under for now 7 times, we have established a procedure which Sebastian can live with: Dad (Tue) must carry him to the operation room, and dad must hold the mask for him while talking of Star Wars evil figures. On Tuesday it was general Grievous, the one with the four light-sabers. Sebastian did remarkably well, and was calm in the arms of Tue. We really hate to have to do this with Sebastian, but together with him we have found our ways. The second part of the 'agreement' is that when Sebastian wakes up, a sack (preferably sown by me on my sowing machine!) should lay on top of his blanket, with a surprise gift inside. If this does the trick, then fine with us. This time we had bought the Lego general Grievous starfighter, which is already built and up and flying in his room.

The surgeon had not seen anything unusual on his way down Sebastian, and the old place of surgery in the duodendum looked fine, and was not blocked. Great. The answers of the various biopsies we will know in a couple of weeks time.

On the same day as we will have the answers for the biopsies, we will do an x-ray of Sebastians neck. A third doctor, who is knowledgeable of cranes and heads, did not find Sebastians ability to rotate his neck satisfactory. In order to rule out anything connected to this (e.i. Klippel-Feil syndrome - which I find unlikely, but we will see), a couple of x-rays will be done on the 26th of August. The same doctor saw on another x-ray done in April of Sebastians crane, that the sutures are still open which is good. The crane can then still grow, without the risk of causing hydrochephalus. Not that the crane is growing much, but that is yet another history… However, the x-ray also showed signs of intracranial pressure (impressions digitatae), which probably (!) has occurred at an earlier stage. The doctor calmed us down by explaining, that intracranial pressure mostly presents itself with vomiting, headaches etc., which we do not experience with Sebastian as of now.

The pediatric neurologist department is trying to evaluate Sebastian on all of these more or less subtle findings together with a general evaluation of his mental and physical development. None of the specialists we have met in this field has been very thorough with Sebastian and with their clinical examinations of him. Nonetheless, after our recent visit in the neuropaediatric clinic, the professor of paediatric neurology ‘concludes’ in the journal that Sebastian is both developmentally and physically much behind, and that he thinks that Sebastian will have to go to a school for children with special needs. The professor tops off his assessment by questioning our ‘allegation’ of FA being related to a high risk of cancer, and high risk of cerebral tumors. The professor questions this as part of his argument for not scheduling follow up MRI-scans of Sebastians head and spine, despite the many findings. This entry in Sebastians journal clearly indicates to us as parents that Denmark definitely is too small a country for this rare disease!!!

On the developmental side, we will now ask for accredited tests to be performed, so we can figure out what school-choice will be the best for Sebastian. Yes, he might need extra support in school, but maybe not to the extent of what the professor concluded after two minutes of examination of Sebastian. We will see.

Oh yes, and then we have the hearingimpairment. Sebastian has since he was 6 months old worn a BAHA-softband hearing-aid. This turned a severely hearing-impaired baby into a very well-articulated young boy, who has a vocabulary and a sense of language more mature than his age. All along the audiologists have wanted to change the BAHA mono sound (there was only one aid, placed on the forehead) to ‘normal’ ear-hangers, which could give Sebastian stereo-sound, which makes it easier to orientate the sound. Until this Summer the ear-hanger project has been delayed, as the VERY narrow ear-cannals did not leave much hope for success. However, on the 6th of July (the day after Sebastians 6th birthday), Sebastian was offered the ‘Rolls Royce model’ of black ear-hanger hearing aids, from Oticon. Moulds have – despite very narrow cannals – been produced and fitted on a pair of Oticon Agil Pro aids. Sebastian willingly tried them on, and his first comment was: “Now I can much better hear what my girlfriend Sara tells me”, and secondly: “Now I can hear the birds sing”. Apparently birds have never been singing in Sebastians head up until now! Although the ear-hangers sometimes fall out of his ears, and although the ears hurt a bit in the beginning, and although Sebastian does not fully masters the art of applying the aids in his ears by himself (as of yet), he is VERY fond of the new aids. Contrary to the old BAHA-band, the new aids span a bigger range of sound (instead of stopping at 6000 hertz, the new aids ‘hear’ until 10000 hertz), are digitalized (which equals better sound quality) and give Sebastian stereo-sound instead of mono. We are all very thrilled with the new aids, and asked whether he wants to use his old band again, Sebastian answers with a loud and clear ‘no’. In the first couple of weeks after the new aids, I could not help talking rather loud when I spoke to Sebastian. Old habbit would, that seeing that he was not wearing his band, I would need to speak up to get in contact with him. Now I am slowly getting it, but it still feels as though he forgot to take his ‘glasses’ on. Something is missing ;-)

And on a final note: we have now started on our fifth PGD attempt. Egg retrieval will be around the 4th of September, and we will see if the eggs are as badly behaved (not following statistics and not resulting in pregnancy) as the last rounds. We have not given up hopes yet, but are planning to have a word with the HLA- department, to get hold of some of our questions related to the donor situation. We feel as though we cannot go on with PGD endlessly, yet at the same time are very aware just how hard a decision it will be to stop the attempts. For now we are very thankfull for having the opportunity to give it yet another try.

Well, the medical stuff certainly keeps us busy. And the updates too long! However, I will try to update on our family life in general very soon (and upload photos from our Summer here in Denmark), as it is definitely more interesting that this ongoing medical safari in the jungle!

Monday, July 19, 2010

Oh no!

Sebastian is feeling very sorry for his new best friend in the US: Kaitlyn fell on a playground and now has both hands/arms in casts :-(

He thought that a little message in sign language could cheer her up!

Get well soon - thoughts and hugs from Denmark!

Thursday, July 1, 2010

Doing the mall-race in Paramus

At the very end of our trip to the US, we ran around with these two red racers in a very huge mall, trying to get the world economy back into balance!

Having fun in the mall!

Camping on the heavy side


Mystic Aquarium











In the Aquarium it was possible to get hand-close to a type of shark, which name I unfortunately has forgotten.
Nevertheless, Sebastian dared (with a little help) to tough one of the sharks in the water. He grew a couple of inches from that ;-)




In the Aquarium they had three beluga wales.



Wednesday, June 30, 2010

Next stop Mystic

It was hard to leave Camp and all the nice people we had met. We did not really know where to go, but decided to go south as we had to fly out of the US from Newark on Saturday the 2nd of July. Deciding that Newark itself was probably not the place we would like to spend the last couple of days in the US (;-)), we stopped in the city of Mystic. We had read about this nice little spot, and especially the Aquarium, which we decided to visit the next day. In the evening we went down to visit the renowed toy-shop in Mystic, and had a nice meal in a little restaurant.


In Mystic the draw-bridge goes up once every hour.


Camp Sunshine 2010

The next many posts will contain pictures and comments from the 2010 annual Fanconi Anemia Camp Sunshine. Some of the pictures are our own, others are from the very active Camp photographer, and a single or two are kindly sent to us by Jeanne Altmann, a very nice grandmother to a FA-girl called Nina. Nina died in 2006 from FA (brain tumor), but her mother Rachel, her brother Benjamin and her grandmother Jeanne attended this years Camp - as well as previous ones. They are a great inspiration to Tue and I, giving us great hopes as to the possibilities of coping with even the hardest of FA realities.

Camp was fantastic - and VERY HECTIC! Having scrolled through pictures from previous Camps and the Camp Sunshine official homepage, Tue and I had set our minds on a nice little week with relaxation, family-life and great outdoor activities. Little did we know that this would apply mainly to our kids! Only one hour after arriving at Camp we were to 'drop off' our kids at the Tot-Lot and attend our first parent session! Meeting the extremely nice volunteers at the Tot-Lot and admiring the playground, all the toys and a bunch of nice kids to play with, both Sebastian and Marie-Louise soon adjusted to their play- and joyfull new surroundings. Even though none of them spoke a single word of English, and nobody understood a single word of what they said!

Tue and I on the other hand, were in for the big surprise: we attended 16 sessions on medical and psycological issues in four days! We could not get enough of all the important messages from top-scientists, and could not stop wanting to hear more of other families experiences with FA. We had a tough schedule from morning till late evening, and only had family-time around breakfast, lunch and dinner with Sebastian and Marie-Louise. We will never forget the outstanding job done by a bunch of volunteers at the Tot-Lot, who managed to make our kids feel safe and welcome.

And we will never forget our great conversations with Ralf Dietrich and Eunike Valleuer, who made us realise a few very important points vis-a-vis our work with the Danish health-system and the doctors here. We hope to meet up with the Ralf-team again - hopefully in Denmark some time.

Group pictures

Tot-Lot 2010. Marie-Louise - being VERY scared of Sunny bear - was outside with volunteer Patricia (thank you again!), and they are therefore not in the picture.
The incredible crowd of fantastic volunteers:
The FA group at Camp Sunshine 2010:
Camp Sunshine group picture:

Volunteers becoming friends - and making Camp a blast for both kids

We will never forget the kindness we met at Camp.





Patricia and Meghan - two of our new best friends from the Tot-Lot.
Sebastian with his shark at the Tot-Lot. Proud fisherman!

Tuesday, June 29, 2010

Hanging out with Kaitlyn



Hanging out on the water

On our last day at Camp we had the chance to spend some time at the Lake Sebago with the kids. Tue and Sebastian went out in a kayak.

Rachel Altmann relaxing on the water
And all four of us went out in pedalling boats. The red lightning boat was indeed the fastest!